Never having been organized as a child and because the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree I figured that my children would be at a genetic disadvantage when it came to keeping their rooms clean. Just over two decades later there I stood in the doorway to my own daughter’s room surveying the half naked Barbie dolls, scribbled on piles of paper, scattered puzzle pieces and books strewn across the floor. There sitting in the midst of the chaos on her room floor was my little apple.
A bit frustrated and wanting my child to be more organized than her mother, I walked in to ask her to at least pick up a few things. The moment my bare feet hit her room floor they were assaulted by legos. Any one who has ever stepped on a lego's well armed, sharp, hard, plastic corners knows the pain these toys are capable of inflicting upon soft soles.
The red lego lodged between my toes created what I call a “mind modifying moment”. A moment in life when something happens that makes it extraordinarily clear what must be done and why. In this case, a clear path to my daughter’s bed instead of a mine field of vengeful legos and Barbie feet was the must! Why? Because it was a fire hazard, heaven forbid there be an emergency in the middle of the night!
Here’s Rule #5 for your little apples! You are their mom, not their maid and therefore not responsible for cleaning up after anyone who is capable of cleaning up after themselves. You job is to ask, remind, insist and inspire them to clean. Until your children pay rent (at your house or theirs), final say on the cleanliness of the house, including their rooms, is yours and there must, at the very least, be an emergency exit path cleared daily by them. Your feet will thank you.